There are two ways to live your life. You can react to what life brings you, or you can proactively choose your direction.
What’s your attitude towards life?
What are your goals and dreams? For many people the answer is very abstract. They just want to be happy. If your answer is the same, you may need to go deeper. What does it mean to be happy? What would happiness look like?
If your partner also has the same answer, how can you be sure that you share the same vision? Each of you will have different details of what this could mean. It’s important that your dreams, wishes and goals, or any vision of the future are detailed and not abstract.
Here’s 5 reasons why:
This is the most important point. You know what you want from life and you take responsibility for your actions. You’re no longer a victim of circumstance.
Having clear goals means that you’ll control things, so that you lead the life you want and become the person you want to be.
When you feel lost in life, it’s because you’re being pulled in multiple directions by different and contradictory desires and pressures. One day you want to travel the world, the next day you want that big promotion. It’s important to try and find out who you want to be, and behave according to that.
You can’t make the day more than 24 hours, but you can spend the time on the things that matter to you.
Your daily tasks can be split into four categories:
I have to do it.
I should do it.
I want to do it.
Others expect me to do it.
When you know what you want from life, it’s much easier to sort the demands put upon you into the correct category. It helps you determine, what’s important for me? What can I ignore? What’s a waste of time?
When it’s not clear what’s important for you, you’re more likely to react to the demands of other people. Other people will prioritise their own dreams and expectations over yours.
It’s much easier to make better and faster decisions when you know what’s your end goal. Importantly it’ll help you make the tough and radical decisions.
Is your life on a trajectory you’re not happy with? If you know your goals, you’ll be more willing to make the change you know you need.
Before you start anything, it’s important to find out what’s your starting position and your end goal.
To keep going, it’s important to stay motivated. It’s best if your motivation comes from inside you, external motivation doesn’t last for long.
Maintaining internal motivation depends on self-reflection. Self-reflection should become part of your life and help you to realise where you’re failing and where you’re succeeding. Without self-reflection it’s difficult to move forward. Every person makes mistakes, you need to learn from them and keep following your dreams.
Unfortunately most people choose to wait and see what happens and procrastinate most of their life. The worst thing is to get to the end of your life and regret all the things you didn’t achieve or try.
It’s easy to take the path of laziness, especially if you don’t know what you want to achieve. Having goals will make help you take responsibility and find a reasonable balance of rest, work and play.
Dreams are hopes and desires which are not time-framed, when you set yourself a time-limit to your dream it becomes a goal. To achieve a goal you need an action plan.
Achieving your dreams does not have to mean no fun and no relaxation. You should try to enjoy the whole journey. When thinking about your dreams and goals you should ask yourself the following questions:
How can I achieve it and enjoy myself?
How I can make it easy for myself?
How can I make it fun?
You’re the only person who is responsible for setting up the correct direction for your life. By knowing what you want, it’s much easier to work out how to get there, and have fun doing it.